[DarkElfChilde]

DEC's been losing interest in the Lord of the Rings fandom... I can't even look at any of my fan fics of it anymore. My interest come and go... I have a new interest, and it's finally making me write again, which is a good thing because I needed to write something badly.

That's why I haven't been coming in here, and posting like I used to. I even thought about it many times of leaving this wonderful site, but I'm not sure now. I missed every crazy person here, and probably would if I would leave if I do. I think the other reason I don't want to leave is because this maybe the only forum where I could get some writing help.

I thought I should tell all of you this, and get it off my back.


- DEC

[NancyBrooke]

DEC - Honey, (cutting straight to the chase) I think you're making this more complicated than it has to be.

Someone once told me about College that, even though you can make some of the dearest and most important friends there, the truth is what brought you together in the first place was a fairly arbitrary thing: desire to be at that one institution, and often even those intense friendships don't last, whereas highschool friendships can sometimes last longer since you have more in common - history, background, where you grew up, etc.

What brings us here to OSA is a fairly small thing in the grand scheme, and if that's no longer feeding your head or your heart and something else is, so be it. There's no rule that says you have to cut out involvement all together. Why not just pop in ocassionally when you feel like it? It wouldn't be rude, or inconsiderate, or mean, or selfish. And if you don't yank your membership, you're still accessible via e-mail.

I think if you don't feel like coming 'round, don't come round. It's okay to be a person who changes (but then, you already knew that).

Cheers -

[Yavanie]

YOu wouldn't be the first to drift in and out of a fandom. Please stay as long as this is working for you. If your heart and your dreams lead you elsewhere, remember us fondly and maybe keep in touch occaisionally. I think you will find you are not alone in being touched by multiple muses in multiple fandoms. And even if not in other fandoms, sometimes in real life another passion takes form.

fly little bird, be free. We love you here, but don't let us keep you from spreading your wings, someone's gotta resurrect the incoherent rambles thread occaisionally.

[Shanalir]

I had something all planned out to say, but had to cut away to take care of my kid, and Yav and NB beat me to it. I agree with everything they said, and will say one part of it myself. Do what works for you. I'd rather have you only pop in once in a while and be happy with it, than have you here constantly and wishing you were doing something else. No matter what you decide, remember, we're an understanding and sympathetic group of people for the most part. I doubt you'll get criticized for what you decide. (Heaven help the person that tries it, anyway. )

[SpaceWeavil]

DEC-

Personally I have always maintained my membership of old fandoms, even though I'm not really that involved with it any more, and for the same reasons you've described. Quite often I've made friends through fandom and found that we had much more in common than just a love of sci-fi / fantasy / whatever. Moreover, with me, I tend to find that even when I've moved on to a new interest, I occasionally get a taste for an older fandom again later on and want to go back, even if it's just for a little while.

Obviously whether you choose to continue to be involved at OSA or not is your own choice, but maybe keep your account in case you do decide to look in on us again?

[Eruanna]

Find a new fandom and sure enough an old one will return to you.

I have been a fan of the book LOTR and Silm since the late 1970s, when the original Star Wars came out, too.

I have been a fan of the "Middle Ages" viz. medieval Asia and Europe, since I was 8 and then again in college! (Do the math, that is, if you have a calculator! LOL!) Now the medieval thing has bitten me hard...again.

Our old loves never leave us. They strike our hearts on a very basic level. There is a little flame still burning in the breast.

I will always be a fan of fantasy and history. Gorgeous elves, armour, bravery, love, beautiful fairy maidens...this will be with my always!

--Eruanna

[SpaceWeavil]

[DarkElfChilde]

I'm glad everyone who replied understands, and I consider good friends who tell me their opinion on what I said. I'll keep all that I can remember from what I read in mind. Thanks.



- DEC


EDIT: At least pick an option on mah poll. I found some of them to be funny, but that's just me.

[ghettoelleth]

[DarkElfChilde]

Thanks Ghetto, that meant a lot to me. All of you are like, an older sister I wished I had.

- DEC

[Shanalir]

Thinking about the whole burnout thing, there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. If you over indulge in something, not only may you end up with a tummy ache, but you might not like it for quite a while afterwards. Trust me, I know about this. I go through it every summer with strawberries and cherries, and every few years with at least one favorite author.

If you think of it as too much of a good thing instead of a loss of interest, it's not so bad.