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ghettoelleth
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| Anna wrote: |
All you married couples -- how was your weddings? How did you deal with the general crazyness? Do you have any good advice for me? Please, tell me!  |
Anna, first off, congratulations honey. You must be walking in the clouds right now. Don't let the preparation, anticipation and worry about the guests make the day too hard for you. This part, regardless of the fact that you are hosting it, is all about you. Don't ever let that fact stray too far from your thoughts.
My mom's crazy, my dad's closely catching up, and we live in California, my husbands family all live in the UK. Solution? We got married, just the two of us, no friends no family, on the beach in Cozumel Mexico. When we got home, my family threw a party, but there was nothing for them to ruin for me, all we had to do was show up.
Later that year, we visited my in-laws, and another dinner party later, we were done dealing with all the hurt feelings, etc etc. We ended up with beautiful memories of our wedding, a couple of uncomfortable dinners spent listening to family asking us, "how could we" and it was all relatively painless.
I wish the best for you and your husband-to-be, and baby. Whichever route you choose, it's aaaaalllll about you, keep that in mind when you're stressing about seating arrangements and whether or not uncle fester can eat red mean. He can always stop on the way and get a muffin or something, lol. Enjoy!
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NeumeIndil
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I'm not married myself, but I've been in several. I can only offer one piece of advice from seeing too many receptions gone wrong: program the number of the local emergency squad into someone's cellular phone. You never know when someone (my uncle) will get roaring drunk and try to walk on a slippery railing, consequently falling and hitting the back of his head. He was fine in the end but refused to get in the ambulance until one of his brothers knocked him unconscious so they could throw him on the gurney.
Might also be a nice idea to have a table set up with coloring books and blocks to keep the rug rats occupied during the reception too. Sometimes children get horribly bored at "grown up" parties.
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Alassante
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Congratuations!! My best is advice is this - the wedding might be a 'once in a lifetime' event (we all hope right?) but it's just one day in your life together. Don't let the stress from the wedding spoil the fact that you're in love. I remember at my wedding I was soooooo stressed out and when I finally was getting ready to walk down the aisle (late I might add and it was MY fault), my dad looked at me and said "Stop worrying things will go wrong. There's nothing you can do about it so just relaxed and try to have fun." Considering all the crap that happened before and after the wedding, he was right. There is so much pressure to have the 'perfect wedding' that you frequently end up miserable in the planning. If I ever do it again, I'm running away to Vegas and getting married by an Elvis impersonator. Now that would be a good time!!! 
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| Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 9:59 am Post subject: |
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| Anna wrote: | | All you married couples -- how was your weddings? How did you deal with the general crazyness? Do you have any good advice for me? Please, tell me! |
Our wedding had 40 guests who were with us throughout the day. We got married in August and it was incredibly hot weather (35 Celsius, clear blue skies and I was very happy I was wearing a broad hat and my wedding dress had satin on the inside). Shortly before the invitations went out a big family feud kinda exploded, so I ended up making the decision not to invite a certain part of the family because we didn't want them to ruin our day (which would have happened, no matter what). Like Ghettoelleth said: it is all about the two of you.
We had more friends than family around us during that day, mainly since our friends are closer to us than our family and had seen our love grown. Our best man was my brother who is incredibly good in keeping the pack together and organising. I think if you can find such a person, he or she can take care of a lot for you. This way you can enjoy your day without worrying too much about who should be doing what and around what time (but making a schedule/planning before that is very handy, it also gives you some kind of peace). The ceremony at City Hall was lovely; we could play our music there. We had a high tea after the ceremony and everything went smoothly, thanks to my brother Smile.
When my best friend got married, she and her husband had their kids with them, during the ceremony, the photo shoot: everywhere. But they also invited their babysitter who could take their kids home anytime when they got too tired. Another tip: don't give the keys of your house to anyone... here it is a kinda tradition that before the married couple truly can enjoy their wedding night, their house has been subjected to pranks (like hundreds of glasses with water on the stairs, the mattress of the bed suddenly went awol, itching powder in the bed, only balloons in your house ect ect). |
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Anna
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| Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 2:10 am Post subject: |
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I have a gown now! Yay!
I bought it yesterday and it was the first one I tried on and it´s absolutely perfect! *sigh*
It´s strange, though.....I´m not particularly girly, if you know what I mean, but when I saw all the bridal gowns in the store......well, lets just say I felt a strong urge to start giggling like a madwoman.
My mum almost started crying when she saw me in the gown and veil. 
Anyway, I´ll let you know how things are going!
So much to do, so little time! |
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inglor
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Something I learned from my wife on our wedding day:
Never let a new hair colorist near you on the day of the wedding. No one will ever notice those 3 gray hairs on top of your head(wife still mad about the color of her hair in the pictures. She called me right before she was about to get to the church hoping I would not think her a witch.)
Something I learned:
Check your fly... went through the whole ceremony and pictures with mine down. I noticed when we sat in the car to go to the reception. "Oh shit... Umm, honey..."
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NancyBrooke
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Don't forget to eat something (if you're not planning a sit-down dinner)!! Before the ceremony and/or at/before the reception. There will possibly be nerves and likely be champagne flying around - make sure you don't faint, lose your energy, or get schnockered before you mean to.
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FallingIntoStrangers
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I have always been a firm beleiver in the phrase "Small wedding, great marriage".
I know so many who have put themsleves into debt trying to have some fab wedding. I mean why spend 25,000 bucks on a wedding when you can have a down payment on a house?
Anyhoo, my hubby and I had a very small wedding. I think it cost 2 grand in total.
Very few guests, and catered by Publix grocery store. And it was great!
I wasn't stressed, but obvioulsy nervous and butterflies in my stomach as I was about to walk out.
All in all, it was a great day and Congrats to you on your happy day!
Just don't smash cake in each others face.... heeeeee!!!
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